Women are we tired of being victims? STOP!

As I watch the news the past 48 hours Elliot Spitzer’s wife’s face is a face that is all too familiar. She seems to have the same face that the New Jersey governor’s wife had as she stood by his side, when he publicly admitted to his affair with another man…. It the face of a victim. Don’t get me wrong, these women have every right to feel betrayed, mistrust, etc. But they are not victims.

My mother said it to me best yesterday, What if Elliot’s wife, Slida, stood up and said to the press the other day: Listen, I am not ok with what Elliot did but betrayal happens in relationships and we will work it out, this is a personal issue. Whatever the outcome, he has a job to do he needs to do it and like every family, work goes on as we work on our personal issues. If she said that, what would be different now? We can only speculate.

So many times we, women, we allow ourselves to step into victim mode and we give up our power over to other people. The moment we step into that victim role, we are done. Done standing in what is possible for us with this situation….

I ask myself why does this irk me so?!

If I was honest about it, it is because there are places in my life that I allow the ‘victim’ to come alive and as I write this, I give her up!

The powerful question here is: What would it look like to stand in our power AND feel betrayed (no matter if we are men or women)?

Because I believe we can have both and this is the most powerful place to stand, where we make the most impact on our lives and the lives of others.

Where are you willing to give up being victim?